Neediness can seem flattering at the beginning of a relationship.
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They want to spend an intense amount of time with you.
They make you question your own feelings and experiences.
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They try to socially isolate you.
Their compliments may only be backhanded.
They don't handle conflict well.
They tell you how you feel.
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They describe themselves as "passionate" as an excuse.
You feel tired all the time from being around them.
Stolar-Peterson warns that her number one red flag is to notice if you feel drained from being near someone. "When energy is extracted from you and not refilled, you feel depleted. How we feel when we are with someone and after we leave them tells us a lot about what they bring into our lives. When we are depleted, guilted, shamed, blamed, and made to feel less then, run. Get away, do not hope they will change. They won't." If you have a gut feeling that your relationship with someone is abusive, you're probably right.
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